I tried to talk to may wife this morning to point out to her that she can't stonewall me inconversations and that we need to be able to talk through issues so I can understand her better and vice versa. She refused point blank. she does nto want to have converfsatiosn with me other than on the most mundane basis. She is clearly scared that I will say something to tirgger her doubts phobia and otehrwise cause her cognitive dissonance. I explained that I understood this and was trying not do that and that we needed to find a way to have discussions without her going intop meltdown mode. She was not interested in playing ball. I am so pissed off.
Frazzled UBM
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Anglican school phobia
by Frazzled UBM inafter a long and frustrating houe search in london we finally found a place that fitted all our requirements and my wife seemed happy with and i was successful in the bidding process and had our offer accepted even though it wasn't the highest beacuse we can exchange contracts quickly and now we have lawyers working on exchanging contracts soon.
so everything is going swimmingly and then my wife demands that we go and look at a house being offered by the same agent we used to make the offer on the house we are buying.
i am like wtf, if we ask the agent to see another property they will tell the vendors for the place we are buying and they will revoke acceptance of our offer and we will be back to square one.
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Anglican school phobia
by Frazzled UBM inafter a long and frustrating houe search in london we finally found a place that fitted all our requirements and my wife seemed happy with and i was successful in the bidding process and had our offer accepted even though it wasn't the highest beacuse we can exchange contracts quickly and now we have lawyers working on exchanging contracts soon.
so everything is going swimmingly and then my wife demands that we go and look at a house being offered by the same agent we used to make the offer on the house we are buying.
i am like wtf, if we ask the agent to see another property they will tell the vendors for the place we are buying and they will revoke acceptance of our offer and we will be back to square one.
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Frazzled UBM
Kate -
You are right - I just read a three year old post on here about JW phobias which lists phobia of other religions, which woudl extend to religous schools I think.
Ironically I brought home the non-Valentine Day Valentine's Day card and gift yesterday and then we got caught up in this crap so I felt like a bit of chump for going to that trouble and then getting treated like the enemy. Perhaps that was another reason why I was so pissed off.
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Anglican school phobia
by Frazzled UBM inafter a long and frustrating houe search in london we finally found a place that fitted all our requirements and my wife seemed happy with and i was successful in the bidding process and had our offer accepted even though it wasn't the highest beacuse we can exchange contracts quickly and now we have lawyers working on exchanging contracts soon.
so everything is going swimmingly and then my wife demands that we go and look at a house being offered by the same agent we used to make the offer on the house we are buying.
i am like wtf, if we ask the agent to see another property they will tell the vendors for the place we are buying and they will revoke acceptance of our offer and we will be back to square one.
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Thanks Joe - that may have something to do with it
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Anglican school phobia
by Frazzled UBM inafter a long and frustrating houe search in london we finally found a place that fitted all our requirements and my wife seemed happy with and i was successful in the bidding process and had our offer accepted even though it wasn't the highest beacuse we can exchange contracts quickly and now we have lawyers working on exchanging contracts soon.
so everything is going swimmingly and then my wife demands that we go and look at a house being offered by the same agent we used to make the offer on the house we are buying.
i am like wtf, if we ask the agent to see another property they will tell the vendors for the place we are buying and they will revoke acceptance of our offer and we will be back to square one.
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Thanks for that info The Searcher but no I would not agree to internet schooling - as jgnat said he needs social interaction, particularly as he is an only child and given there is a perfectly good school two doors away. One of the advantages of the house is it is in a cul-de-sac and close to the school so I am hoping that by sending him to that school he will meet the kids who live in the street and so will have neighbours to play with.
jgnat - I had not thought she saw me in the enemy camp but her comments shocked me somewhat and I imagine she is constantly getting people in her ear at the KH about the risks to her faith of having a UBM. I told her this morning that she needed to think about how she was treating me and that she wasn't treating me well which I think was a bit of a shock to her. We will see what happens tonight as to whether she is at all conciliatory. She won't be changing KHs as she goes to a Tagalog language one a long way from where we live which has the advantage of discouraging shepherding calls.
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Anglican school phobia
by Frazzled UBM inafter a long and frustrating houe search in london we finally found a place that fitted all our requirements and my wife seemed happy with and i was successful in the bidding process and had our offer accepted even though it wasn't the highest beacuse we can exchange contracts quickly and now we have lawyers working on exchanging contracts soon.
so everything is going swimmingly and then my wife demands that we go and look at a house being offered by the same agent we used to make the offer on the house we are buying.
i am like wtf, if we ask the agent to see another property they will tell the vendors for the place we are buying and they will revoke acceptance of our offer and we will be back to square one.
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zebagain - thanks for responding - yes there is no chance I iwll be agreeing to look at other properties and miss out on this one. I like the 'do know' approach - I will try that next time but suspect because it is a phobia that she will be laoth to articulate it. I will move schools for my son but I also don't want the agro of her sniping about it hence my reason for trying to tease out the issue. So there is no common and garden Witness phobia of church schools then?
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Anglican school phobia
by Frazzled UBM inafter a long and frustrating houe search in london we finally found a place that fitted all our requirements and my wife seemed happy with and i was successful in the bidding process and had our offer accepted even though it wasn't the highest beacuse we can exchange contracts quickly and now we have lawyers working on exchanging contracts soon.
so everything is going swimmingly and then my wife demands that we go and look at a house being offered by the same agent we used to make the offer on the house we are buying.
i am like wtf, if we ask the agent to see another property they will tell the vendors for the place we are buying and they will revoke acceptance of our offer and we will be back to square one.
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After a long and frustrating houe search in London we finally found a place that fitted all our requirements and my wife seemed happy with and I was successful in the bidding process and had our offer accepted even though it wasn't the highest beacuse we can exchange contracts quickly and now we have lawyers working on exchanging contracts soon. So everything is going swimmingly and then my wife demands that we go and look at a house being offered by the same agent we used to make the offer on the house we are buying. I am like WTF, if we ask the agent to see another property they will tell the vendors for the place we are buying and they will revoke acceptance of our offer and we will be back to square one.
Then it dawns on me that the place she wants to look at is close to my son's current non-denominal school and the house we are buying is two doors away from an anglican school and quite a way away from my son's current school. In this context I had suggested to my wife that he move schools as he is quite unhappy at this current school. She had also been complaining that the anglican school didn't have the same after school clubs as my son's current school.
So I asked her whether this was the issue. She was non-committal but it was pretty clear that ti was. So I asked her what the problem was to help me understand. She was non-committal and basically stopped answering my questions. So I put some scenarios to her - is it becausew the Church of England is part of the world conspiracy of false religions referred to as Babylon the great and that they will get destroyed first? response: 'Idon't know'. Is it because there are demons in churches (she has a phobia of churches) and in church schools? 'I don't know' and she asks me 'Why are you so keen for him to go to that school?' which suggested to me that her distrust of me is so great that the fact that I am enthusiastic about the school is grounds for suspicion. I put this to her and then she just shuts down and refuses to discuss the subject further.
I had hoped to be able to pinpoint exactly what she was scared of so we could address it and get her to be comfortable that her fears were not real but she left me completely frustrated. I went to bed bitter and angry at the cult for making her so full of phobias and so emotionally retarded.
Could anyone enlighten me on what was going on in her head? Why woudl she be so fearful of our son going to an Anglican school even though it doesn't teach religion or require the students to be Anglicans?
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Feb 15th Watchtower study article.
by quellycatface injust browsing the jw survey website and looked at the above article.
i am constantly being amazed by the disgusting bs the gb spew out.
this time it's about all the people "slain by jehoover and how the bodies would lay end to end of the earth......and the birds of heaven called to clean up the slain.
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quellycatface 'Fear, guilt and mind games are what this cult is all about.' What more is there to say about the WBTS really - this sums them up perfectly. Fraz
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Here we go again. Dan 4 and 1914
by leaving_quietly inwtbts published a new article on jw.org (http://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/questions/daniel-4-bible-chronology-1914/) entitled "what does bible chronology indicate about the year 1914?
" in it, it points to daniel 4 as the prophecy and uses the same leaps of insane logic to get from the first and only fulfillment of that prophecy to 1914, using 607 as the starting point and 2,520 years as doubling the 1,260 years in revelation.
of course, there is no accounting for the difference in our solar years and the bible's lunar years, which makes the math have a very different outcome.
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It shows amazing gall for them to be recycling 1914 in this way to somehow claim credit for it given Charles Haze Russsell predicted it would be the beginning of Armageddon. The WBTS is amazing when it comes to not letting the facts get in the way of a good story. They should be ashamed of that date both for Russell's failed prophecy and the 'the generation of 1914 will never die' back flip.
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I was a window washet...
by new hope and happiness inthete are a lot of derocatory comments sbout witnesses and cleaning windows.
as a former window cleaner i can say:-.
a. i started my self employment at 17.. b. i built the round with my own initiative.. c. i was soon making 4 times the average hourly wage.. d. i was afraid of heights, but as the round grew i employed 2 people.. e. it exspanded to gardening painting and decorating ect, ect,.
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Yes nhah - it belies the myth that it is only middle-aged men who yearn for young flesh...and good on you for builidng a successful business...degerees are not the be all and end all (there are both well-educated idiots and geniuses with limited education - most very successful entrepreneurs either never started or never completed university) but they do generally give one better prospects and more choices in terms of employment and a head start in developing critical thinking skills...would you recommend your kids get a university education?
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I was a window washet...
by new hope and happiness inthete are a lot of derocatory comments sbout witnesses and cleaning windows.
as a former window cleaner i can say:-.
a. i started my self employment at 17.. b. i built the round with my own initiative.. c. i was soon making 4 times the average hourly wage.. d. i was afraid of heights, but as the round grew i employed 2 people.. e. it exspanded to gardening painting and decorating ect, ect,.
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nhah: 'if i had been inclined there were some fantastic opportunities with female householders.' Please elaborate. And can I buy the film rights?